It is so hard to let go of people and things that mean so much to you, but if it is going to cost you sanity and peace it’s time to let go! Many don’t look at sanity and peace as something that comes with a price tag, but it does, it costs more than most things you will pay for in your life. Do you realize that stress can cause diseases, illnesses, fatigue, affect your sleep, make it hard to recover from sickness, interfere with relationships, affect your career, and even can shorten your life on this earth? Stress is the opposite of peace, that leads to insane situations, and can leave you wondering where you went wrong.
We often allow our minds to take us on a trip that should’ve never started from the beginning, if we just took that thought and discarded it at the onset. Thoughts can render our minds useless once we’ve been pulled into something that sends us down the road of worry. This is when the stress starts! The definition of worry means to “give way to anxiety or unease; allow one's mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles”; sound kind of familiar. Okay now think about when and where this started and how it started. I think I have the answer, when you allowed what someone said or did not say bother you. Maybe it was some action that let your thoughts run wild. Or even better maybe you saw something that made you feel some kind of way, but you did not ask any questions, and you decided to make your own assumptions. This is how worry/anger leads to stress that eats away at the fabric of your being and in some cases sends you on an insane trip. On this trip you hold on to all that has you turned upside down on the inside and now you are paying the price for this tense expedition of your mind. My Mama calls it “mental gymnastics”, who in the world has time for this? We may not have the time, but we make time and find the energy for something that should have been released a long time ago.
When will we realize that others’ problems are not our own and we don’t have to make somebody else’s stuff ours. One of the happiest moments in life is when you can find the courage to let go of the things you cannot change or control. Letting go gives us freedom and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If in our heart, we still cling to anything- anger, anxiety, feelings of abandonment or being wronged, the need for validation, longing for someone to come clean, or even the need for an apology it is impossible to be free. It hurts to let go, but sometimes it hurts even more to hold on to the thoughts, emotions, and stuff-its of this life. Anything that cost you peace and sanity is too expensive for your body, mind, and spirit.
-by Tina Kay Hughes